Q: I’m afraid my efforts to lose weight will hurt my marriage. Can you help? A: Don’t let your spouse’s fear of change (or love of carbs) keep you from becoming healthier. Keep it collaborative—don’t get preachy. Remember that by taking care of yourself, you’re taking care of the relationship. These specific suggestions can help:
—Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Psychologist, Professor, California State University, Los Angeles Click here to go back to All the Answers, June 2013. CLICK HERE TO ACCESS THE ALL THE ANSWERS ARCHIVES Brought to you by: Spry Living
- Communicate honestly. Tell your partner what you’re trying to do, but don’t expect immediate buy-in. You may be OK with having steamed veggies for dinner, but he or she may not feel the same—don’t push your agenda.
- Continue eating together, even if you and your spouse are eating different foods. Create something like a salad that you can enjoy together, and then you can each have your own entrée.
- Try to be active together. If you are taking a walk on a weekend, ask him or her to come along, but don’t guilt your partner into exercising.
- Don’t do a cupboard purge without asking. Your better half is going to be angry if the goodies suddenly disappear.